smoker. Whenever she comes to our house for her sessions, she doesn’t even ask if it’s okay, she just smokes the entire time. I have severe asthma (last year I went to the emergency room b/c of it. My mom also has it and has to be on steroids for it. Whenever I come home after, I find it hard to breathe. I have asked my mom to ask her not to smoke in the house, but my mom says I have to have empathy b/c this woman has been through a lot and smoking is the only thing that makes her happy, she she can’t ask her not to smoke. I have empathy for her, but to me empathy doesn’t mean putting your own health at risk and enabling someone. I also understand it is my mom’s house and her rules, but it bothers me so much that this woman is putting my mom’s and my health at risk with the second hand smoke and asthma. I know this woman personally (and she is defensive and delusional), and I want to write her a note or call her to ask her as a personal favor to not smoke in front of my mom. But I’m worried about my mom being pissed at me. What do you think? I am really angry at this woman’s selfishness.
Lady Lynn- I know, this isn’t 1959!
Nutrionally- I completely agree with you! My mom is putting this woman above me and I am angry- but this is an issue I have had with my mom even before this. Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it!
You should have another talk with your mother about this because it’s not about the woman. This is about what your mom is allowing this woman to do. Be angry at your mom.
I’m sure the woman is used to being asked or told not to smoke. If your mom had an office she wouldn’t be able to smoke *there* so how is this any different? Your mom is putting a client’s wants and needs before that of her own child. Does she really know everything there is to know about second hand smoke?
If mom still wont listen you can look out for yourself by pretending to have worse asthma symptoms after the woman leaves. Fake an attack just short of going to the ER every time the woman has been there. I don’t believe in crying wolf and faking things but sometimes it’s the only way to get another person’s attention.